Phone: (08) 98 418 418
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Phone: (08) 98 418 418 |
| Understanding Your Grief |
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Friend, these words come straight from my heart to yours. "Grieving is
universal but also so personal and individual." And from experience, I have
discovered there are no easy answers to the numerous questions each of us might
ask in times of grief. However, what I've written for you today isn't a
prescription, my goal is simply to use these words to enter your heart for a
while and share your loss.
Dear friend, when you grieve it really matters because no other human knows the deep ache you are experiencing when you lose your loved one. Their unique preciousness to you is beyond words, and now they are gone. In most cases, each person who loves you will try to say the right words, and you know they would give anything if they knew what would really console you. But deep in your heart you know they can't really console you because they don't really know what you feel and what you need. Sometimes, you're not sure yourself what you need-you only know that you want the one whom you have lost. Perhaps time will help, but you certainly don't think so right now-and this gives you little comfort for your present pain. And sometimes it seems like your world has turned up-side down. Sometimes the silence in the house is almost devastating, but you know that creating noise is not the answer. Sometimes friends may tell you that you must eat properly. Intellectually you know that, but you simply aren't interested in food. Some of your friends may tell you, "Get proper rest now," but even when you try, sleep doesn't come easily. It is then you might even feel like shouting, "Doesn't anyone know that my grief is my fatigue, and sleeping doesn't relieve it?" This change, this loss, this death hurts. You resent it and you feel that you're powerless to stop the pain. You feel angry and sometimes, you feel just numb. Perhaps, in your grief, you've even wanted to pray and you start, but then tears come. You may even feel like crying out to God, "Oh, God, I'm so alone. I miss him/her so much! Why didn't I go first? Why them, Lord? Why now?" But then you catch yourself thinking, "Maybe I'm blaming God." You might also think "I should be doing a better job of coping with this loss." After some time passes, even your friends look for signs that you're coping better. They might say, "He/She's starting to live again," but you know it's not that simple. And so you start thinking that you can't even tell your closest friends when you aren't coping well. My friend, do any of the above thoughts describe you? Would you like to talk about how you hurt and what your nagging questions are as you struggle with your sorry? If so, I'd like to hear from you. We need God most of all, but we also need each other. If you would like a FREE copy of the booklet, "Does He Cry With Me?" I'd be pleased to send you one. Just write me at: P.O. Box 1540, Albany WA 6331. If you prefer, you can phone me on (08) 98 418 418. Email: abl-alb@omninet.net.au |
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