Doing It, Just Right

Discovering A Better Life
P.O Box 1540, Albany Western Australia 6331
Phone/Fax: (08) 98 418 418
E-mail: abl-alb@omninet.net.au

Doing It “Just Right”
Friend, you’ve heard of analysis paralysis, right? Well, from my observation some people are so determined to think through every detail of every possible eventuality that they can only see opportunity in the rear-view mirror. In reality, the window of opportunity for many profitable investments, career options, or relationships sometimes closes before such people are comfortable with making the move. By the time they determine to act, the time for acting has passed. Thus the dictum carpe diem, Latin for “Seize The Day!” Good judgment is one thing and prudence and caution before taking a risk is appropriate. But the inability to make a decision and take action is not a virtue. Then there’s the variant of analysis paralysis that I’ll call the penchant for perfection. When it is *self-orientated, this spirit embraces incredibly high and unrealistic standards of performance; it is unable to acknowledge fault or failure. It is the person who must make all A’s in school, be the top performer in the company, and always be acknowledged to be right in family decisions. Some researchers claim a link between the penchant for perfection and depression. Some even link it to a high percentage of suicides. On the other hand, if the penchant for perfection is other*-orientated, it imposes unrealistic expectations on the people in one’s environment. Such a person can only criticize and find fault with his or her employees and co-workers; nothing is ever so good that they cannot tell the person how it could have been better. On the home front, their take on things is that the house is never clean enough, the children never do as well as they could in school, and nobody really deserves praise. Consequently, these people make other people unhappy and find it hard to keep good employees or stay married. Friend, God didn’t put us here to do everything “just right.” He certainly didn’t put us here to be one another’s monitors and critics. Each of us is imperfect, and the best way to relate to one another is with patience and encouragement. Admitting our shared imperfection is not an excuse for failure. It isn’t meant to keep us from trying. And it certainly isn’t whitewash for low standards and puny performance. It is simply acknowledging that we human beings must accept our imperfection and admit that we can’t do everything right all the time. In effect, it’s a plea for our right as humans to learn from our mistakes and continue moving ahead. Friend, it is in our moments of imperfection and failure that God meets us with His grace and empowerment. And you don’t want to miss that encounter, do you? I look forward to sharing more thoughts with you, but if you would like to write to me with your questions or comments, I’d be pleased to hear from you. Email me or write to me at P.O Box 1540, Albany W.A 6331. Telephone / Fax (08) 98 418 418 Have a great day! -- Ron

Doing It “Just Right”

Friend, you’ve heard of analysis paralysis, right? Well, from my observation some people are so determined to think through every detail of every possible eventuality that they can only see opportunity in the rear-view mirror. In reality, the window of opportunity for many profitable investments, career options, or relationships sometimes closes before such people are comfortable with making the move. By the time they determine to act, the time for acting has passed. Thus the dictum carpe diem, Latin for “Seize The Day!”

Good judgment is one thing and prudence and caution before taking a risk is appropriate. But the inability to make a decision and take action is not a virtue.

Then there’s the variant of analysis paralysis that I’ll call the penchant for perfection. When it is *self*-orientated, this spirit embraces incredibly high and unrealistic standards of performance; it is unable to acknowledge fault or failure. It is the person who must make all A’s in school, be the top performer in the company, and always be acknowledged to be right in family decisions. Some researchers claim a link between the penchant for perfection and depression. Some even link it to a high percentage of suicides.

On the other hand, if the penchant for perfection is *other*-orientated, it imposes unrealistic expectations on the people in one’s environment. Such a person can only criticize and find fault with his or her employees and co-workers; nothing is ever so good that they cannot tell the person how it could have been better. On the home front, their take on things is that the house is never clean enough, the children never do as well as they could in school, and nobody really deserves praise. Consequently, these people make other people unhappy and find it hard to keep good employees or stay married.

Friend, God didn’t put us here to do everything “just right.” He certainly didn’t put us here to be one another’s monitors and critics. Each of us is imperfect, and the best way to relate to one another is with patience and encouragement.

Admitting our shared imperfection is not an excuse for failure. It isn’t meant to keep us from trying. And it certainly isn’t whitewash for low standards and puny performance. It is simply acknowledging that we human beings must accept our imperfection and admit that we can’t do everything right all the time. In effect, it’s a plea for our right as humans to learn from our mistakes and continue moving ahead.

Friend, it is in our moments of imperfection and failure that God meets us with His grace and empowerment. And you don’t want to miss that encounter, do you?

I look forward to sharing more thoughts with you, but if you would like to write to me with your questions or comments, I’d be pleased to hear from you.

Email me
or write to me at
P.O Box 1540,
Albany W.A 6331.

Telephone / Fax (08) 98 418 418

Have a great day! -- Ron